As Furhman states, and I agree, we fear rejection because we take it as a personal insult, that it has something to do with or about us!. The truth is that in most rejection cases, it has nothing to do with us.

When I coach moms we usually find the real fears are in “our stories”, or what we believe to be true about ourselves. So…if we believe “people don’t like us or won’t like the product/service that we sell”, then anytime we get rejected, we use that as proof that our story is true!

So as a new challenge… what if we decided to create a NEW STORY in our mind that says “I am liked, well received and LOTS of people LOVE my product/service”. What do you think will happen? Are you willing to try it?

Another tip Furhman suggests, read a personal development book for 15 minutes a day-when you decide to start on a journey of self discovery, the personal and professional rewards can be endless. It can help you develop new skills to acheive your goals and a new awareness of yourself and others! Before you know it, your confidence is higher, your heart is more open and accepting, and your fears may no longer hold you back.

What have you got to loose? Let the world receive all the wonderful things YOU have to offer! Have an “Attitude of Grattitude” to see that rejection can be a gift given to us to learn and grow.

Persistenly yours,
Savvy Mom Marci
SMN Founder/Life Coach
“The only place success comes before work is in the dictionary” Vidal Sassoon

If you answered a confident, “Yes”, Way to go,  you are one of the brave and one of the few women to master this skill!

If you answered anything but yes, Congratulations to you too! You are among many of women today who were not taught the tricks of the negotiating game.

In fact, you were most likely taught through family upbringing and society that “it’s not polite to ask for more than what you get”, or that “rules are meant to be followed, not broken”.

Well this month, I encourage you to BREAK the RULES and Challenge old beliefs that, in my opinion, HOLD YOU BACK and KEEP YOU PLAYING SMALL. 

I invite you to open the door to new perspectives and possibilities in playing the game of life as abundantly as you can! 

How?….Well, we can start by just that, ASK!!!  Adopt a new mantra to live by: “It Never hurts to ask!”

This is one major mistake women make in negotiating, We DO NOT ASK! 

Permission to speak in general for a moment?  For the most part, women want to be liked.  In negotiating, women assume that when someone gives us an offer,  it is the best, most fair offer they can give. So generally, women choose to either accept the offer or not accept it; and that is the extent of our negotiating.

It reminds me of a memory I have.  When I was 13 years old, my mom, aranged for my first summer babysitting  job with one of her co-workers. When it came to figuring out my pay, she took care of my negotiating because never working before, I didn’t know what to charge. 

My mom (bless her heart)  did her best to handle negotiating my pay. She said to her friend, “Just pay Marci what you think is fair”. Now I’ll admit, the truth of this story gets a little distorted (as all good stories do) but the story I remember was that her friend paid me about $2 an hour to watch her FOUR kids!  Not four angels mind you, four trouble makers!

After a week of watching them as they terrorized me, their animals, and their house, I finally said to my mom “this is not worth the money I am getting paid!” I remember her words echoing in my head, “Oh Marci, lets not offend her by saying anything. She picked the price she thought was fair, so lets just leave it at that”, ”You should be grateful that you have that job earning extra money”!

I remember as clear as day how that situation and her response made me “feel”.  Now in mom’s defense, she was doing the best she knew how at that moment and I do not blame her one bit for that sitaution, in fact I am so GRATEFUL for it! Because,  what I discovered from that experience was that I have held onto that “belief” throughout a huge part of my adult life!  By holding onto it and  believing it to be true, time after time it prevented me from asking for what I REALLY wanted because I was afraid I would offend someone or I would look ungrateful for what was being offered to me. 

It sent an internal message for years that my needs weren’t as important as other people’s needs.  WOW, do you think that held me back from abundance and opportunities? By “seeing it” and “owning it”, I experienced a  HUGE  breakthrough in my negotiating skills and thankfully I have chosen new beliefs to live into that serve me better.

So use my story as inspiration and motivation to ask yourself: What stories or belifes are you holding onto that aren’t serving you any more in terms of Negotiating? 

The gift is that once we receive answers for ourselves, it can lead us to see where we may be pushing current opportunities and abundance away! And by choosing to replace the old belifes with new, more supportive beliefs we can shift not only our life’s experiences, but our children’s, too!    

What are some other tips?

Here are 3 Successful Keys to Winning the Negotiating Game:

1.      Be Confident – whatever you say, say it with confidence!

2.      Be Prepared – gather all the necessary information to help you; know your goals, your objectives, and your ideal outcomes with a range of possibilities.

3.      Be Willing to Walk Away – if you must have something to give you the courage to walk away; adopt the philosophy that “no deal is better than a bad deal”!

And remember, just like anything new or unfamiliar in life; the only way to fail is to Never Even Try!

If you’d like to learn more about negotiating, check out this great book “A Woman’s Guide to Successful Negotiating; How to Convince, Collaborate; Create Your Way to Agreement”, by Lee E. Miller and Jessica Miller, they have tons of great tips/tools!

• Do you feel guilty or resentful for saying “Yes” when you really want to say “No”?
• Does caring for your family feel more like a job than a Joy?
• Do you spend more time in negotiations with your kids rather than intimacy and connection?

 If you answered yes to any one of these questions…

You are invited to Give Yourself this Free Gift. . .

10 Keys to Compassion for Savvy Moms Introductory Teleconference!

Savvy Mom Coach, Marci Tjader and Clinical Psychologist/National “Teenologist”, Dr. Beth Halbert have teamed up to combine their powerful transformational practices to create the “10 Keys to Compassion for Savvy Moms” program.  Dr. Beth brings a masterful and playful approach to self-compassion along with Marci’s amazing gifts as a mom and Personal Power Coach.  Together, they are waking moms up to their own greatness as a mom and showing them how to actualize their highest potential while balancing and having it ALL. 

In this 1 hour call, you will learn:

How to have “Guilt-Free” Love, Joy, and Playfulness in your life

• What the “10 Keys to Compassion” are
• How the “10 Keys” can deepen the connection with yourself and everyone around you!
• How C-O-M-P-A-S-S-I-O-N is the Key to Unlocking Your TRUE POTENTIAL!

Reserve Your Seat for this **Amazing Call**

Wednesday August 19^th 6pm-7pm PST

RSVP at www.MarciTjader.com/freestuff.htm  

For more information about Dr. Beth or Marci Tjader, Please visit www.DrBeth.com & www.MarciTjader.com  

When I worked in the corporate world, I had small perks I received based on my position; usually free lunches and sports tickets from vendors who wanted to build influential relationships. It wasn’t until recently looking back that I became aware of the prestige, confidence, and significance I thought those perks gave me.

Things shifted in my life and the beautiful gift of motherhood came. All of a sudden, I was in charge of a whole new set of prestigious honors. Ones that revolved around nursing, decoding baby cries, leading my child to her first steps, and explaining to her how choices render consequences in life.

Then I added icing on the cake by becoming an entrepreneur. Where I no longer have the prestigious paychecks or annual bonuses to count on and where my road less traveled is paved with dreams of no glass ceilings and more rewarding lifestyles without sacrificing family time.

No matter where you are in your stage of being a mom or in your career, this month we have an opportunity to redefine our value as moms/business owners in a way that goes beyond our actual bank account balance or prestigious position we hold.

Email me at mtjader@savvymomsnetwork.com to receive a Complimentary Conference Call recording where “Dr Beth” a Parent/Teen Psychologist/Coach and Marci the “Savvy Mom” Coach lead us to ’see’ and ‘own’ our value whether it’s in the form of a paycheck or life’s countless blessings.

Join Us this month at our Arizona Networking Events discussing the Topic: “Overcoming BIG Challenges” to learn how to take the challenges we face in business to new heights and victorious outcomes!

Marci Tjader
Savvy Moms Network Founder
The “Savvy Mom” Coach
Office (602) 374-4385
Cell (602) 909-9559
mtjader@cox.net
http://www.marcitjader.com/

The “Re-Defining” Process-
A process that you may encounter many times in your business life cycle; challenging you to recognize it & take advantage of it to push your business in new and more promising directions.

“Been There, Done That” Phase-
Sometimes at this stage you feel as if your business has been running you through an
“eat-sleep-work, eat-sleep-work, eat-sleep, work” cycle.
Forget the Profits, you want the perks! Alas, you are in the beginning stage, it wont last like this forever.

Put the “Pedal to the Metal” Stage-
As your business consumes more of your time, the toll it takes on your personal life can intensify. It’s easy to push yourself into the red zone, but pay attention and find ways to re-energize yourself while you’re here, otherwise the strains of this intense force will zap you out physically and emotionally.

“Financial Anxiety” Juncture-
If you’ve let your new business prospecting take a back seat, then you may find yourself scrambling for new clients, and funds to keep things going. Being zealous in your efforts to continually generate new business will help you see sustained results and get you out of this financial crunch.

“More Confidence”-
FINALLY, you can see the silver lining! The groundwork you’ve laid during your launch phase is paying off, despite the ups and downs, you’re likely to feel more confident about your chances of survival and success. The last months you’ve gained a gold mine of new experience and newfound expertise-allow yourself to bask in the glory of each success!

Would you like to have a guided journal that asks the questions for you?

This Savvy Moms Journal is for you!

We’ve created a custom journal that allows working moms of all ages and stages to:

Dive In!

Invent new ways to do it all!

Acheive balance! 

Take time our for you!

This journal is filled with self guided questions that will lead you to unlock your potential in life and business!

Order your Limited Edition today and learn what journaling can do for YOU!

To place an order contact (602) 909-9559 or email marci@savvymomsnetwork.com

Don’t miss this monthly conference call~ During this 1 hour call, you will answer questions from the book to see how your team rates and how you can Overcome Any Dysfunctions within YOUR Team.

The best part is it’s FREE for Savvy Moms Annual Members!

RSVP to Marci